Blog // Complicated Situation: Things to Remember

Someone told me last night that “We think sometimes our life is simple.” He is right. Most of the times we tend to find ourselves in a complicated situation wherein life gets difficult. Circumstances are getting more confusing. You are becoming anxious and worrisome.

There are things in this world that we cannot avoid. Arguments, fights, wars, misunderstandings., etc. Nevertheless, we should always remember that everything will eventually be “Okay” if we show the positive ways on how to conquer our worries, negative thoughts, sadness and self pitying and turn them into something that will make us confident and a better person.

My experience:

He told me last night that I’m always in a complicated situation. He is right again. My life is complicated ever since. Recently, I was involved into a fight between two groups of people and with all honesty I think I was the cause of the problem. I made the environment dark and depressing. People who supported me told me that it was not my fault and that I was only a victim. However, since I already got used to be in this kind of situation I already learned the art of being happy.

Things to remember:

1. Everybody has their own problem  

 

Do not be too self-centered. Everybody has their own problems. There are people who are very showy with their emotions but there are also people who are not and treat their Major problems as something Minor. You know why? Because if they are going to FOCUS on the problem itself they will never see the solution for it. You must learn how to treat your problems well. Don’t let it affect your life too much. There are other things in your life that you should be focusing on. Try to support the people around you, inspired them, be inspired and always remember… everybody needs support. 

2.  Set side negative thoughts by focusing on positive thoughts

I know this sounds hard but you must learn how to alleviate your attention. Setting aside the negativity will make way for the positivity. Try to remember the happy things that had happened to you during the past days. Try to re-read letters that inspired you, emails sent by your friends, messages from your special someone. Doing simple things will help you overcome the sadness brought by problems.

3. Be happy and Don't be afraid

Sometimes, people are afraid to face their problems. They are afraid of the consequences that might happen if they try to confront their problems. However, you must try how to be confident and fight. Do not be afraid because there are people who are on your sides, people who are supporting you and cheering for you. Stand up and do your thing. Do not be afraid of mistakes because they will teach lessons in life that you will remember. Smile and be happy with the simple things that you have. Be thankful.

4. Talk with the elders

Talking with the elders will help you open up your mind and broaden your knowledge about life. Older people have more experiences and they might already experience the exact thing that you are experiencing right now. Try to tell them your situation and ask for advice. They are willing to help younger people on how to move on, go on, let go and give in.

Problems and complicated situations are the secret ingredient for a wonderful life. Through them, you will learn many things that will make you push hard and strive hard to know yourself, be yourself and to love the people who are important to you.

Sunday. Good Luck everyone. I’ve been into many complicated situation; believe me those things helped me a lot to become the person that I am right now. I may not be perfect but I know I became a better person compared to the person I was in the past.

 

Things that made me happy:

- Communicating with him.

- Having simple and innocent conversation.

- Exercising. Zumba.

- Cloudy weather.

- Studying.

- Cooking.

- Short hair. Yesterday, I cut my hair short. :)

- Singing "Only Exception" by Paramore.

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Blog // Trust and Secrets

"I trust everyone but it's the devil inside them that I don't trust" 
- Italian Job (Movie)

"How can you live without trusting people? There are more people who are good than people who are bad." 
- Mother "Please look after after Mother" (Novel)

Have you ever find yourself in a situation wherein you feel so lost because you don’t know who to trust?

Even if they assure you that your secrets are safe with them… you cannot bring yourself to spill the beans because you are so afraid of the consequences that might happen. In other words, you DOUBT them.

If you don’t trust them… then it is safer not to share your secrets because if you do… you just might regret it. Remember, you cannot turn back the time. Past is past and what happened already happened and you cannot efface all the things that had happened.

Lately, I’ve been contemplating to share a secret of mine to other people, but with all honesty I still don’t FULLY trust them. Are they really trustworthy? Can they keep my secret? Will they use my secret as something to make me do things that are against my will?

Or maybe I am still traumatize with all the backstabbing that I had experienced before. I trust everybody but it’s the devil inside them that I don’t trust. That quote is from the movie “Italian Job” and this applies to me because I know that no matter how much they seem to be trustworthy… some of them or maybe a few will still reveal my secrets to somebody… and … I don’t like it. I trusted them, how can they easily tell my secrets to other people?

I cannot understand people who assured you that you could trust them but for some reasons they intentionally make you realize that they are not WORTH IT. Trust is something I can give for free but if you stab me behind my back then it is already goodbye. I still consider you as my friend but I will never ever share my secrets to you again. Period.

Trust as well as love, friendship, is one of the greatest things in the world that money cannot buy. That’s why, if I want others to trust me… I don’t assure them with my words but with my actions and sincerity. I cannot assure them right away that “Hey I can keep your secret forever… don’t worry.” but the only thing I can assure them is that I don’t talk things that I am not allowed to.

Even if the person got mad on me… I kept my mouth shut because I want this person to realize that “our fights” will not jeopardize the “trust” he/she gave me… besides what will I get as a reward if I share the secret to other people? It will only create chaos and a lot misunderstandings and I am not the kind of person who wants to be an antagonist of somebody’s life. I like peacefulness and I hate fighting and war. I don’t like them at all. Those kinds of negative things make me go insane and I want to run away in that kind of situation.

How to trust people?

     1.  Whom to trust?

We must first enumerate the people who we think are trustworthy and test if they are really worth our trust. 

      2.  How much trust?

Next, is that we should gauge how much trust we need to give to the people. 100%? 50%? 99%? This is the hardest part and usually we get hurt through this process but there’s nothing wrong in getting hurt. At least we will be able to learn a certain lesson in life. Small secrets, hush-hush secret, very personal secret….

    3. What to entrust?

In every category of whom we should trust there is also the reciprocal kind of things that we think we should entrust to them.

But you know what? Most of the time… it is better to keep your mouth shut to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings. I have seen lots of friendship and relationship that were destroyed by sharing the secrets to the wrong people. 

Trust is very complicated to discuss… If I were you… be rational and reasonable in gauging and balancing the things that are connected to trust and secrets. 

Good Luck. Good Luck to me too. 

I decided not to share mine to them. This is not about being private but being careful.

Good day everyone!

Things that made me happy:

> Another day.

> Talking to my Elementary classmates. I am very happy because I finally get in touch with all of them. It's a nice thing to talk to the people that I haven't seen for almost a decade!

> Lychee Drink. Sooo YUMMY!

> Exercising. I love sweating the fats and calories off my body. It makes me feel healthy everyday.

> I am still ALIVE.

Collection Of Words 14: Let me be free (Written When I was 15 years old)

I was organizing my files in my laptop when I remembered about my "Literary folder" dated 2005. This folder contains all my writings from the time I learned how to express myself through words.

This specific entry entitled "Let me be free" was inspired by my high school experiences. I was hated by a lot of people and the only thing I could do back then was to write my emotions on a piece of paper.

"Let me be free"
By: Erica/Aki
Date: 2005
  

I thought everything was finally fine…but I was wrong.

I just forced my self to move on with my life carrying the wounds inside me. My tangible parts moved and go on with the flow of life but my inner crust was left behind waiting for the peace of mind to come.

The word “OKAY” is imprinted on my forehead…but as the times goes by…I realized that I’m not. My feelings didn’t change a bit. I wish it could be just a drawing on a piece of paper that can easily be erased…but these feelings are written in a permanent ink that no means of erasing could make it disappear.

I’m stuck for the zillionth time…I’m back inside my prison cell.

I can’t move on…for the reason that the tinniest hope still lives inside me. Hoping that someday…they would give me a chance to utter these emotions and let me be free at last.

 END

Today is "Friday Rush". Still sad? Yes I am. As always. I'm expecting and expecting... everyday, everyday and everyday.

Things that made me happy:
- Talking with him (No matter how short the conversations are)
- Talking with friends.
- Dinner with my mother.
- Behind the scene pictures from NATGEO.
- Banana song with a japanese kid.
- That I am HONEST.
- That I'm still alive.

Blog // Simple ways to ease the SADNESS

I'm  EMOTIONAL today. For some reasons I feel so heavy. I feel like there's a hole in my heart. It's difficult to breathe... It's painful... emotionally speaking.

Sometimes, feeling like this is inevitable... I used to run away from sadness and pretend to be happy in front of the people but I wanted to be HONEST... you have to be honest and face this emotion if you want to end your suffering.

4 Tips to ease the sadness:

1. Write.

This is for the people who don't have somebody to talk to... like me. Technically, I'm an introvert. Introverts are not good in spoken words but excellent in written words. Writing is one of my ways to get out the emotions in my head, in my chest, in my heart...Next time you feel sad... Try it, believe me, writing will bring peace in your mind.

2. Listen.

Listening to music is one of the best ways to ease the sadness. Whatever song you listen into will be great as long as you like it. As for me, I like to listen to acoustic, classical, instrumental whenever I feel BLUE (sad). I write while listening to music and my emotions naturally flow, my hands move on their own to create words that I'm writing right now.

3. Sleep.

It's difficult to sleep when you have lots of thoughts in your head. You always find yourself having a hard time closing your eyes and even if you count million sheeps... it's not enough. BUT, you have to rest your head, your mind and your body... don't be too difficult to yourself. There's still tomorrow, you can do all the things that you weren't able to do today... It's never too late to say what you wanted to say, to do what you wanted to do...

4. Talk.

If you're an extrovert, you could always find somebody to talk to. My advice? Make sure to find someone who will LISTEN to you, someone who will not interrupt you while you talk...

Let me share to you the great mixtape that I found online (http://8tracks.com/drunk-kisses/to-ease-the-heartache)...

Good Luck. Remember, TOMORROW IS A NEW DAY. Enjoy today. Face Tomorrow with courage and DON'T GIVE UP. Pursue what you wanted to pursue... 
Don't be afraid. Spread the LOVE!

Things that made me happy: (Too many to mention but...)
- Free schedule.
- Making the designs for the Coffee Mugs.
- Writing letters.
- Gift wrapping my gifts for my students.
- Conversations with my students.
- Being told that I'm suitable to teach professionals.
- Being told to Enjoy my life. (I will... you too)
- Being told that I'm a great teacher.
- Making other people happy (Because this makes me happy too... VERY HAPPY.)
- Being told that they will miss me. (I will too... I can never forget. I will never forget.)
- Being told that I'm the best just the way I am.

Blog // Powerful word "SORRY"

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Are promises important to you? Is breaking a promise easy? What will you feel if somebody broke his or her promise to you?

Promises are important to me; especially if I'm the one who made them. Breaking a promise is easy as ABC... this is the REALITY. If somebody broke his or her promise to me, of course I will definitely feel BAD.

For some reasons, making promises is very easy for us but fulfilling them is difficult. Is it because of some circumstances that are inevitable? Or is it because we tend to forget the promises that we actually made? By BREAKING it... we should always remember that there are people who will feel bad, sad and disappointed.

This week... I unintentionally hurt a friend of mine by making a promise that I wasn't able to fulfill. I made my friend very excited but look what I did... I made her disappointed. 

I said "Sorry"... she has forgiven me already and you know what... I learned my lessons. I don't break promises and this is the first time for so many years. I wanted to make my friend feel better and saying "SORRY" is the only thing that I am capable of.... for now.

At the end... I feel relieved because we're okay now. I told myself that I will not going to make her (my friend) feel bad again. I treasure my friends very much because they treasure me too. I think it's only right and just to give the exact same feelings to them.

SORRY... made me HAPPY and RELIEVED.

Things I learned:
- Don't make a promise if you're not going to fulfill it.
- Say "Sorry" and make sure you mean it.

"MERRY GO ROUND" week. A lot of things happened and I am very THANKFUL for everything.

Things that made me HAPPY:
- Comedy jeepney ride with down to earth passengers.
- Laughing out loud with strangers.
- Haruto-kun letter and origami (5 years old Japanese kid)
- Conversations and laughing with my students.
- "You're a good teacher."
- Loving parents.
- Understanding friends.
- That I am still alive and breathing.
- Being told that I'm an interesting person. THANK YOU!