Blog // Trust and Secrets

"I trust everyone but it's the devil inside them that I don't trust" 
- Italian Job (Movie)

"How can you live without trusting people? There are more people who are good than people who are bad." 
- Mother "Please look after after Mother" (Novel)

Have you ever find yourself in a situation wherein you feel so lost because you don’t know who to trust?

Even if they assure you that your secrets are safe with them… you cannot bring yourself to spill the beans because you are so afraid of the consequences that might happen. In other words, you DOUBT them.

If you don’t trust them… then it is safer not to share your secrets because if you do… you just might regret it. Remember, you cannot turn back the time. Past is past and what happened already happened and you cannot efface all the things that had happened.

Lately, I’ve been contemplating to share a secret of mine to other people, but with all honesty I still don’t FULLY trust them. Are they really trustworthy? Can they keep my secret? Will they use my secret as something to make me do things that are against my will?

Or maybe I am still traumatize with all the backstabbing that I had experienced before. I trust everybody but it’s the devil inside them that I don’t trust. That quote is from the movie “Italian Job” and this applies to me because I know that no matter how much they seem to be trustworthy… some of them or maybe a few will still reveal my secrets to somebody… and … I don’t like it. I trusted them, how can they easily tell my secrets to other people?

I cannot understand people who assured you that you could trust them but for some reasons they intentionally make you realize that they are not WORTH IT. Trust is something I can give for free but if you stab me behind my back then it is already goodbye. I still consider you as my friend but I will never ever share my secrets to you again. Period.

Trust as well as love, friendship, is one of the greatest things in the world that money cannot buy. That’s why, if I want others to trust me… I don’t assure them with my words but with my actions and sincerity. I cannot assure them right away that “Hey I can keep your secret forever… don’t worry.” but the only thing I can assure them is that I don’t talk things that I am not allowed to.

Even if the person got mad on me… I kept my mouth shut because I want this person to realize that “our fights” will not jeopardize the “trust” he/she gave me… besides what will I get as a reward if I share the secret to other people? It will only create chaos and a lot misunderstandings and I am not the kind of person who wants to be an antagonist of somebody’s life. I like peacefulness and I hate fighting and war. I don’t like them at all. Those kinds of negative things make me go insane and I want to run away in that kind of situation.

How to trust people?

     1.  Whom to trust?

We must first enumerate the people who we think are trustworthy and test if they are really worth our trust. 

      2.  How much trust?

Next, is that we should gauge how much trust we need to give to the people. 100%? 50%? 99%? This is the hardest part and usually we get hurt through this process but there’s nothing wrong in getting hurt. At least we will be able to learn a certain lesson in life. Small secrets, hush-hush secret, very personal secret….

    3. What to entrust?

In every category of whom we should trust there is also the reciprocal kind of things that we think we should entrust to them.

But you know what? Most of the time… it is better to keep your mouth shut to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings. I have seen lots of friendship and relationship that were destroyed by sharing the secrets to the wrong people. 

Trust is very complicated to discuss… If I were you… be rational and reasonable in gauging and balancing the things that are connected to trust and secrets. 

Good Luck. Good Luck to me too. 

I decided not to share mine to them. This is not about being private but being careful.

Good day everyone!

Things that made me happy:

> Another day.

> Talking to my Elementary classmates. I am very happy because I finally get in touch with all of them. It's a nice thing to talk to the people that I haven't seen for almost a decade!

> Lychee Drink. Sooo YUMMY!

> Exercising. I love sweating the fats and calories off my body. It makes me feel healthy everyday.

> I am still ALIVE.